Obviously, this is shaping up to be one of those blogs I barely write in. I'd like to change that, but finding the time is very hard. I work full-time now, on top of caring for Kathryn, Josie dog, Jared, our home, etc. It's hard, but so far it is what works for us.
Kathryn will be six months old in a few days. Because I see her every day, I can't readily see how much bigger she is, until I look at newborn pictures. Then I feel all wistful for when she was tiny, but amazed at how she is growing.
She hasn't popped out another tooth since the first 2 showed up in month 3, but she's feeling pain from them, for sure. She gets the occasional fever, doesn't want to eat, is fussy, etc.
She's starting to be mobile. She's an expert sitter, roller, and is getting up and rocking on hands and knees. She moves herself backwards and can turn herself, but she's not moving forward yet.
She has a strong grip and if she can see it, she wants to hold it. She turns things in her hand to see what they will do. She also shakes things and watches them.
Kathryn's not babbling with consonants, yet. She vocalizes, but with vowels, like "aaaaaaah", "ooooo", ehhhhh", and growling.
She scratches her head a lot, and pulls her own hair, and then cries because she hurt herself. She loves to stand up in her bouncer, while holding hands, or bracing on an object. I feel she'll be an early walker, but a late talker.
Kathryn's not a big cuddler--she doesn't want me to just hold her and not do anything with her. She'd rather be engaged in an activity or a game. But when she sees me, she usually gives me a delighted smile that says, "you're back! let's play!"
Yes, it's wonderful being a mom. Yes, I love Kathryn so very much. But I think all moms, if honest, will admit that this is really hard work. A new person dropped in your lap as a part of the family, that needs to be fed, bathed, changed, played with, read to, nurtured, rocked to sleep. This is part of the reason mothers are so amazing and deserve respect. They handle this new person with such love and grace, giving of themselves--be it time, sleep, money, sacrificing that shirt that now has poop stains, picking boogers and wiping butts.
Call your mother and thank her. She's amazing. If your wife is a mom, tell her how you respect her and how incredible she is. And if you're a mom....believe it. You are awesome and fantastic.
Saturday, January 4, 2014
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Three months? Really?
In a way, it feels like Kathryn's only been here a few weeks. In other ways, though, it feels like it's been longer than three months. I still recall our lives before her, and sometimes I do miss things. Such as, I used to be able to hop in and out of the car quickly. I used to set an alarm clock. I used to garden and wander around the yard doing little things. But as I told Kathryn today, I am so glad to have her in my life. God gave us the best baby He had.
When we weighed Kathryn on October 8th (3 months exactly), she was 13 pounds and 2 ounces. That means that in one months, she moved from the 50th percentile in weight to the 69th percentile. I'm not sure how long she is now, but at two months, she was 90th percentile on that.
Listening to peoples' experiences with their own infants, and dire predictions of "you'll never sleep again" or "just accept you'll be wearing spit-up and poop for the next year", I expected a much less pleasant experience. But, ever since I worked through the postpartum depression, I've had a wonderful time being a mom. I consider this a huge blessing from God--not anything I did. Kathryn's been sleeping through the night for about eight weeks. And by "through the night", I mean from about 10pm to 7am. She does not fight sleep, and she sleeps deeply and soundly. We can live our lives normally around her while she does her baby snoring.
And yes, she spits up some, but it's nothing that gross--just a mixture of formula and water that happened to come back up. And I'll spare you diaper details, but it's nothing worse than picking up after the dog. Kathryn doesn't like dirty diapers and loves to be changed. She smiles beautifully--sometimes, from the moment she wakes up to the moment she closes her eyes at night!
She is a happy girl who tolerates everything well. She loves bath time, "talking", music, movement and lights, being on her tummy, trying to sit up--everything is fun to her. So far, I haven't had a moment where she couldn't be consoled, or a moment where she has cried for more than 15 minutes.
I am beyond thankful for Kathryn and how mellow she is, but I try not to get too used to it. I know we will have valleys to go through. And I will love her just as much in those hard times, too.
When we weighed Kathryn on October 8th (3 months exactly), she was 13 pounds and 2 ounces. That means that in one months, she moved from the 50th percentile in weight to the 69th percentile. I'm not sure how long she is now, but at two months, she was 90th percentile on that.
Listening to peoples' experiences with their own infants, and dire predictions of "you'll never sleep again" or "just accept you'll be wearing spit-up and poop for the next year", I expected a much less pleasant experience. But, ever since I worked through the postpartum depression, I've had a wonderful time being a mom. I consider this a huge blessing from God--not anything I did. Kathryn's been sleeping through the night for about eight weeks. And by "through the night", I mean from about 10pm to 7am. She does not fight sleep, and she sleeps deeply and soundly. We can live our lives normally around her while she does her baby snoring.
And yes, she spits up some, but it's nothing that gross--just a mixture of formula and water that happened to come back up. And I'll spare you diaper details, but it's nothing worse than picking up after the dog. Kathryn doesn't like dirty diapers and loves to be changed. She smiles beautifully--sometimes, from the moment she wakes up to the moment she closes her eyes at night!
She is a happy girl who tolerates everything well. She loves bath time, "talking", music, movement and lights, being on her tummy, trying to sit up--everything is fun to her. So far, I haven't had a moment where she couldn't be consoled, or a moment where she has cried for more than 15 minutes.
I am beyond thankful for Kathryn and how mellow she is, but I try not to get too used to it. I know we will have valleys to go through. And I will love her just as much in those hard times, too.
Monday, September 16, 2013
Bravery?
My post about my postpartum depression made some waves, in my pool of friends and beyond. I've gotten several notes about it--some from people I know, and some from people I haven't met yet. Most of these notes called me "brave" for speaking about it. I appreciate this sentiment and it was so kind for people to write, but I want the shoe to be on the other foot--I want for people who hold a stigma about mental health to have to be brave.
Brave enough to confront the fact that they hold such a stigma.
Brave enough to treat me, and anyone else with a mental health issue, the same as you'd treat someone that was struggling with asthma. After all, they're both simply illnesses.
Brave enough to cast off that stigma about people with mental health issues and speak out in favor of a more supportive and accepting view.
As an update, Kathryn is ten weeks old today and I feel good. I take 75 mg of Zoloft each morning and I keep the telephone number of my counselor close by, in case I feel I need some extra support. I have several supportive friends at church who check in with me and invite me to things, and both sets of parents check in often. I am aware I also have a lot of prayer support that continues each day.
I love spending time with Kathryn and often ask Jared to let me hold her more, even though he's home from work and wants to love on her some. I'm able to get chores and errands done at a fairly good pace, and I feel hopeful and confident about each day and the future. I am so thankful to God for His many blessings in my life.
I'm humbled and glad that some people have found my openness to be helpful and emboldening. But I want to see this go farther. Mental health issues are not rare. An estimated 26.4 percent of adult Americans (that means about 1 in 4 people) have a mental disorder in any given year. This includes anxiety, depression, OCD, PTSD, bipolar, etc. In total, that's about 60 million Americans. And none of us should feel we have to hide it. Hiding it or ignoring it only makes the disorder worse! Instead, talk about it and seek treatment. Reach out to family, friends, a pastor or a counselor. Dare people to confront the stigma and change it. Do not accept (or fear) peoples' negative (and ignorant) judgement based simply upon an illness.
Brave enough to confront the fact that they hold such a stigma.
Brave enough to treat me, and anyone else with a mental health issue, the same as you'd treat someone that was struggling with asthma. After all, they're both simply illnesses.
Brave enough to cast off that stigma about people with mental health issues and speak out in favor of a more supportive and accepting view.
As an update, Kathryn is ten weeks old today and I feel good. I take 75 mg of Zoloft each morning and I keep the telephone number of my counselor close by, in case I feel I need some extra support. I have several supportive friends at church who check in with me and invite me to things, and both sets of parents check in often. I am aware I also have a lot of prayer support that continues each day.
I love spending time with Kathryn and often ask Jared to let me hold her more, even though he's home from work and wants to love on her some. I'm able to get chores and errands done at a fairly good pace, and I feel hopeful and confident about each day and the future. I am so thankful to God for His many blessings in my life.
I'm humbled and glad that some people have found my openness to be helpful and emboldening. But I want to see this go farther. Mental health issues are not rare. An estimated 26.4 percent of adult Americans (that means about 1 in 4 people) have a mental disorder in any given year. This includes anxiety, depression, OCD, PTSD, bipolar, etc. In total, that's about 60 million Americans. And none of us should feel we have to hide it. Hiding it or ignoring it only makes the disorder worse! Instead, talk about it and seek treatment. Reach out to family, friends, a pastor or a counselor. Dare people to confront the stigma and change it. Do not accept (or fear) peoples' negative (and ignorant) judgement based simply upon an illness.
Monday, September 9, 2013
2 Month Well Visit
Kathryn, you are 9 weeks today, but you were officially 2 months old yesterday. We visited Dr. Ennis this afternoon, and she's very happy with your progress! You are 23.5 inches long (90th percentile), your head circumference is 15.5 inches (70th percentile), and you weigh 10lb 12oz (50% percentile). It seems you may be a tall girl!
You got five shots in your legs today, and also got the oral vaccine. You were straining for more of the oral vaccine, because it tastes sweet. The shots weren't fun--you screamed, but you were calm again within two minutes.
Dr. Ennis said you seemed developmentally on track in every way. Daddy and I are glad to hear that!
You got five shots in your legs today, and also got the oral vaccine. You were straining for more of the oral vaccine, because it tastes sweet. The shots weren't fun--you screamed, but you were calm again within two minutes.
Dr. Ennis said you seemed developmentally on track in every way. Daddy and I are glad to hear that!
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Milestones
Kathryn, you are only seven weeks old and already you can do so much!
You started lifting your head at 1.5 weeks, and you're very good at it now. Another couple of weeks and I think you'll have full head control.
You are very attentive--you started tracking at two weeks. You like to follow objects and people with your eyes. It seems you're always ready to learn!
You started to coo at four weeks. You now make sounds like "guh", "ahh", "ehh" and "buh". I talk back to you--I say "yum", "ma", "bee", and "oh".
You recognize me and Jared and you calm down from crying when we walk into your line of sight.
You slept through the night at 5.5 weeks old, and have been making it a habit since then. You now sleep 7-9 hours straight each night!
You haven't quite "discovered" your hands--as in, looking at them--but you do use them to reach for things and to move things. You smile so big when you manage to move one of your hanging toys by touching it.
You laughed for the first time yesterday, at seven weeks old. We all want to hear more of that fun sound!
You started lifting your head at 1.5 weeks, and you're very good at it now. Another couple of weeks and I think you'll have full head control.
You are very attentive--you started tracking at two weeks. You like to follow objects and people with your eyes. It seems you're always ready to learn!
You started to coo at four weeks. You now make sounds like "guh", "ahh", "ehh" and "buh". I talk back to you--I say "yum", "ma", "bee", and "oh".
You recognize me and Jared and you calm down from crying when we walk into your line of sight.
You slept through the night at 5.5 weeks old, and have been making it a habit since then. You now sleep 7-9 hours straight each night!
You haven't quite "discovered" your hands--as in, looking at them--but you do use them to reach for things and to move things. You smile so big when you manage to move one of your hanging toys by touching it.
You laughed for the first time yesterday, at seven weeks old. We all want to hear more of that fun sound!
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
I have postpartum depression.
This blog started with a similar, blunt statement--that I had a miscarriage. These two topics seem to have a "taboo" label on them, and I don't agree with it. Both are (sadly) common occurrences--why should anyone feel they should be ashamed or unable to talk about it?
Yes, I have postpartum depression. Kathryn's stay in the NICU kept me in "crisis mode" so that I was able to effectively push it away and ignore it. But, the second day we were home, I noticed a marked change in my attitude towards Kathryn, myself and life in general. I wasn't hungry and forgot meals. I didn't want to see anyone or go anywhere. I found it near impossible to smile, laugh, or engage in a conversation. I looked at Kathryn and almost felt an aversion, rather than a bond. While she slept, I had anxiety, dreading the moment she would wake up and need something from me. I didn't sleep, and it wasn't because of Kathryn, it was me.
I knew I was at risk for PPD. My mental health history includes some general anxiety and ADD. So I didn't wait long to talk with the midwives and seek help. By day five of being home from the hospital, I was on a prescription and had the name of a Christian counselor to schedule an appointment with. The midwives also called my family to give them information on PPD and some tangible ways they could help me.
The week after that was one of the lowest points I've ever had. My mother was there, faithfully, each day. She had to make sure I ate, slept, got off the couch and out of the house, and even had to make sure I fed Kathryn and interacted with her. I felt no love towards my child--she could've been anyone's newborn, for all I cared about her. I knew that feeling was wrong, but please try and understand that IT WASN'T HOW I TRULY FELT. My mind, my depression, was creating that lack of feeling.
If you find yourself feeling this way at all, please get help. Talk to someone you trust. These feelings aren't an honest reflection of you as a parent or a person, so there is no reason to be ashamed or keep it hidden. It is NOT YOUR FAULT for having postpartum depression. As I said at the beginning, it is very common after giving birth to find yourself in some level of depression, and you should always have someone you can talk with about how you are feeling.
A week after I started taking medicine, I felt a new change--I was able to smile! I was able to get myself dressed for a dinner date and enjoy it. Each day after that, I felt a little more "normal". I began to seek out time with Kathryn, instead of dreading it. I enjoyed food and I could sleep again. I felt more confident in my ability to function through each day. My mother-in-law spent that second week with me, another blessing.
I've been on medicine for about a month now, and have had a few meetings with the counselor. I feel "back to normal" at this point, and am so glad that I sought help immediately. I couldn't imagine trying to fight through those feelings for another day, much less another week or even a month! I'll urge you again, if any of the above sounds like your life, or if you recognize someone else with these feelings, please get help. Postpartum depression isn't anything to be ashamed of. You didn't do anything to get it, and there's not any proven way to prevent it. But there are many resources to treat it!
Those negative feelings--they weren't me. That was just the depression talking. Kathryn's six weeks old now, and I love her dearly. I love to spend time with her and get so much joy out of having her in my life. She's so smart, beautiful, and strong! This is the way I truly feel about my daughter. I am so thankful for modern medicine, my attentive midwives, the wisdom of Christian counseling, and the prayers, love and practical care from Jared and both of our families.
Yes, I have postpartum depression. Kathryn's stay in the NICU kept me in "crisis mode" so that I was able to effectively push it away and ignore it. But, the second day we were home, I noticed a marked change in my attitude towards Kathryn, myself and life in general. I wasn't hungry and forgot meals. I didn't want to see anyone or go anywhere. I found it near impossible to smile, laugh, or engage in a conversation. I looked at Kathryn and almost felt an aversion, rather than a bond. While she slept, I had anxiety, dreading the moment she would wake up and need something from me. I didn't sleep, and it wasn't because of Kathryn, it was me.
I knew I was at risk for PPD. My mental health history includes some general anxiety and ADD. So I didn't wait long to talk with the midwives and seek help. By day five of being home from the hospital, I was on a prescription and had the name of a Christian counselor to schedule an appointment with. The midwives also called my family to give them information on PPD and some tangible ways they could help me.
The week after that was one of the lowest points I've ever had. My mother was there, faithfully, each day. She had to make sure I ate, slept, got off the couch and out of the house, and even had to make sure I fed Kathryn and interacted with her. I felt no love towards my child--she could've been anyone's newborn, for all I cared about her. I knew that feeling was wrong, but please try and understand that IT WASN'T HOW I TRULY FELT. My mind, my depression, was creating that lack of feeling.
If you find yourself feeling this way at all, please get help. Talk to someone you trust. These feelings aren't an honest reflection of you as a parent or a person, so there is no reason to be ashamed or keep it hidden. It is NOT YOUR FAULT for having postpartum depression. As I said at the beginning, it is very common after giving birth to find yourself in some level of depression, and you should always have someone you can talk with about how you are feeling.
A week after I started taking medicine, I felt a new change--I was able to smile! I was able to get myself dressed for a dinner date and enjoy it. Each day after that, I felt a little more "normal". I began to seek out time with Kathryn, instead of dreading it. I enjoyed food and I could sleep again. I felt more confident in my ability to function through each day. My mother-in-law spent that second week with me, another blessing.
I've been on medicine for about a month now, and have had a few meetings with the counselor. I feel "back to normal" at this point, and am so glad that I sought help immediately. I couldn't imagine trying to fight through those feelings for another day, much less another week or even a month! I'll urge you again, if any of the above sounds like your life, or if you recognize someone else with these feelings, please get help. Postpartum depression isn't anything to be ashamed of. You didn't do anything to get it, and there's not any proven way to prevent it. But there are many resources to treat it!
Those negative feelings--they weren't me. That was just the depression talking. Kathryn's six weeks old now, and I love her dearly. I love to spend time with her and get so much joy out of having her in my life. She's so smart, beautiful, and strong! This is the way I truly feel about my daughter. I am so thankful for modern medicine, my attentive midwives, the wisdom of Christian counseling, and the prayers, love and practical care from Jared and both of our families.
Friday, August 9, 2013
One Month Old
Amazingly, 33 days have passed since Kathryn was born--she's 4.5 weeks old now! She had her one month doctor check-up today. Here are the highlights:
She weighs 8lbs 12oz --50th percentile.
She's 22.5 inches long--75th percentile.
Her head circumference is 14.75 inches--50th percentile.
She has a mild case of cradle cap that Jared and I will take care of with a special shampoo.
Her reddened eyelids are actually a common birthmark that will fade with time--they are usually termed "angel kisses". The redness will be more noticeable when she is excited or upset, for up to two years of age.
She is meeting developmental milestones a little ahead of schedule--she coos, grunts, tracks objects side to side and up and down, and is just starting to smile intentionally. When on her stomach, she can hold her head up for a few seconds, and today she batted at a toy hanging above her.
She got one shot today, and she is a VERY sensitive soul when it comes to those! The needle went in, and you could see the shock register in her face as she arched her back and took in the deepest breath she could before screaming. She hasn't had tears up to this point (newborns' tear ducts are immature), but when she cried from getting her shot, the tears came rolling. Bless her heart--at her two month appointment, she'll be getting five shots.
All in all, she's doing great!
She weighs 8lbs 12oz --50th percentile.
She's 22.5 inches long--75th percentile.
Her head circumference is 14.75 inches--50th percentile.
She has a mild case of cradle cap that Jared and I will take care of with a special shampoo.
Her reddened eyelids are actually a common birthmark that will fade with time--they are usually termed "angel kisses". The redness will be more noticeable when she is excited or upset, for up to two years of age.
She is meeting developmental milestones a little ahead of schedule--she coos, grunts, tracks objects side to side and up and down, and is just starting to smile intentionally. When on her stomach, she can hold her head up for a few seconds, and today she batted at a toy hanging above her.
She got one shot today, and she is a VERY sensitive soul when it comes to those! The needle went in, and you could see the shock register in her face as she arched her back and took in the deepest breath she could before screaming. She hasn't had tears up to this point (newborns' tear ducts are immature), but when she cried from getting her shot, the tears came rolling. Bless her heart--at her two month appointment, she'll be getting five shots.
All in all, she's doing great!
Sunday, July 14, 2013
Happy One Week!
Kathryn, you made your debut at 5:33am last Monday, July 8th, 2013. You were born at UNC Hospital in Chapel Hill. You were 7 pounds and 13 ounces, and you were 19.3 inches long. We love you very, very much.
After a week's worth of prodromal (non-productive) labor, I went into true labor Sunday morning around 9am. I labored at home until 4 or 5 pm when we drove to the Birth Center. Allison was on call. I mostly labored in the tub or on my side on the bed. Everything hurt, and I kept throwing up, which made me extremely dehydrated. Eventually I labored to 9.7 centimeters dilated and completely effaced, but I had no energy to finish it out. Plus, Kathryn had her elbow jutted out, making it almost impossible to push. Because of these things, Allison made the call to transfer me to UNC. I was given IV fluids and an epidural to restore my energy and strength. I rested 3-4 hours and woke to have my water broken. At that time we discovered meconium (baby's first poop) in the fluid, so the NICU team was put on standby. I pushed about 30 minutes and Kathryn came out beautiful and perfect. She was breathing, but it was taking her a lot of effort. Her apgar scores were 8 and 9 anyway. The NICU team wheeled her over to let me see her and touch her, and then wheeled her off. We weren't sure at that time what was wrong, although there didn't seem to be too much hurrying or concern.
I received a few stitches and rested for a couple more hours before being moved to a maternity room. Then we were told that Kathryn both swallowed and breathed in some of her meconium. It is a very thick substance, and when she breathed it into her lungs and then continued to try to breathe, the pressure built up in the lung and burst two holes in her lung. These, we were told, would heal on their own over a few days. However, it made congenital pneumonia, or other infections, possible. She would have to have her blood studied for infection and undergo a week-long treatment of antibiotics.
That week is almost over. Tomorrow is Monday again and we are very much looking forward to taking Kathryn home, although we are also a little nervous to be all on our own. This week has been tumultuous. We had no plan at all to be away from home more than one night, much less seven nights and eight days. We didn't have a plan for anyone to bring in the mail/paper, water the garden, watch the house, take care of the dog, etc. We didn't know where we would stay or how we would afford so many meals and parking fees.
God has sustained us through this time. He has provided ways for us to find free meals or people to bring food to us. He provided a place to stay, away from the hospital (for short breathers away from all the hospital-ness, and a place for Jared to sleep)(that had a free shuttle to and from the hospital); plus a place to stay within the hospital (for me as I needed to be available in order to breastfeed Kathryn). We've received many Facebook messages, texts, calls, and some visits to sustain our spirits. Even though this is very far from what our original plan was, we know it was God's plan and He will continue to provide for us as we are now waiting on receiving the bill for all this care.
I believe I had as natural a birth as possible without endangering my baby or myself, and I am proud of and content with that. God knew that Kathryn would need extra care as soon as she came out, so He guided our experience to put us in one of America's very best children's hospitals. To labor that far without medical interventions was no small feat, and I couldn't have done it without Jared's help and support. He was so strong, positive and encouraging. I really felt that he had the situation under his control and that he was determined to see me through until the end. I am so thankful for him.
We are a little nervous to be all on our own, starting tomorrow, but excited to start a "normal" parents-of-a-newborn life. We love little Kathryn and look forward to watching her grow in all sorts of ways.
Day Seven
After a week's worth of prodromal (non-productive) labor, I went into true labor Sunday morning around 9am. I labored at home until 4 or 5 pm when we drove to the Birth Center. Allison was on call. I mostly labored in the tub or on my side on the bed. Everything hurt, and I kept throwing up, which made me extremely dehydrated. Eventually I labored to 9.7 centimeters dilated and completely effaced, but I had no energy to finish it out. Plus, Kathryn had her elbow jutted out, making it almost impossible to push. Because of these things, Allison made the call to transfer me to UNC. I was given IV fluids and an epidural to restore my energy and strength. I rested 3-4 hours and woke to have my water broken. At that time we discovered meconium (baby's first poop) in the fluid, so the NICU team was put on standby. I pushed about 30 minutes and Kathryn came out beautiful and perfect. She was breathing, but it was taking her a lot of effort. Her apgar scores were 8 and 9 anyway. The NICU team wheeled her over to let me see her and touch her, and then wheeled her off. We weren't sure at that time what was wrong, although there didn't seem to be too much hurrying or concern.
I received a few stitches and rested for a couple more hours before being moved to a maternity room. Then we were told that Kathryn both swallowed and breathed in some of her meconium. It is a very thick substance, and when she breathed it into her lungs and then continued to try to breathe, the pressure built up in the lung and burst two holes in her lung. These, we were told, would heal on their own over a few days. However, it made congenital pneumonia, or other infections, possible. She would have to have her blood studied for infection and undergo a week-long treatment of antibiotics.
That week is almost over. Tomorrow is Monday again and we are very much looking forward to taking Kathryn home, although we are also a little nervous to be all on our own. This week has been tumultuous. We had no plan at all to be away from home more than one night, much less seven nights and eight days. We didn't have a plan for anyone to bring in the mail/paper, water the garden, watch the house, take care of the dog, etc. We didn't know where we would stay or how we would afford so many meals and parking fees.
God has sustained us through this time. He has provided ways for us to find free meals or people to bring food to us. He provided a place to stay, away from the hospital (for short breathers away from all the hospital-ness, and a place for Jared to sleep)(that had a free shuttle to and from the hospital); plus a place to stay within the hospital (for me as I needed to be available in order to breastfeed Kathryn). We've received many Facebook messages, texts, calls, and some visits to sustain our spirits. Even though this is very far from what our original plan was, we know it was God's plan and He will continue to provide for us as we are now waiting on receiving the bill for all this care.
I believe I had as natural a birth as possible without endangering my baby or myself, and I am proud of and content with that. God knew that Kathryn would need extra care as soon as she came out, so He guided our experience to put us in one of America's very best children's hospitals. To labor that far without medical interventions was no small feat, and I couldn't have done it without Jared's help and support. He was so strong, positive and encouraging. I really felt that he had the situation under his control and that he was determined to see me through until the end. I am so thankful for him.
We are a little nervous to be all on our own, starting tomorrow, but excited to start a "normal" parents-of-a-newborn life. We love little Kathryn and look forward to watching her grow in all sorts of ways.
Day One
Happy Family
Friday, July 5, 2013
Friday Appointments
Today, Jared and I first went to UNC for an ultrasound. It showed that my amniotic fluid is low, and the doctor who supervised informed me that, if I were her patient, she would induce me. We shrugged it off and went to the Birth Center for our non stress test. When the midwives read on our UNC report, which doctor had seen us, they rolled their eyes. The midwives told us they have spoken to her supervisor many times, because she is an alarmist who has scared the Birth Center patients on numerous occasions. The midwives told me that they are not concerned with my fluid levels at all--they are fine.
The non stress test went very well. It showed that Kathryn has great reserves of strength and energy for getting through labor, and we should have nothing to worry about.
We were sent home and have spent the afternoon getting rest and taking short walks. No other news to report right now!
The non stress test went very well. It showed that Kathryn has great reserves of strength and energy for getting through labor, and we should have nothing to worry about.
We were sent home and have spent the afternoon getting rest and taking short walks. No other news to report right now!
Thursday, July 4, 2013
Starting week 42!
Kathryn, you are 41 weeks developed, today! The world around us is getting antsier and more anxious, but you, me and Jared are keeping the zen. After all, you can't rush perfection. We love you very much.
Here's a 41 week picture from today. Kathryn has dropped, she is in a good position, and she continues to move a bit every day. Jared checks for her heartbeat and movement on a daily basis. I have been having prodromal ("fake") labor for about two and a half days--the contractions hurt, but are not overwhelming--more annoying. They are not properly time-able--some will be 5 minutes apart, others will be 30 minutes apart, or even hours later.
The "When to Expect" website that I mentioned a few posts ago now says I have a 65% chance of delivering this week. I really thought it would be higher than that! They say their best guess on Kathryn's weight would be 7lbs and 13oz. I feel like she is probably a little heavier than that.
The last time I was at the birth center (when I was 39 weeks and 4 days), I was scheduled for a biophysical profile that's to take place tomorrow morning. Basically, it's an ultrasound and a non-stress test, just to make sure that it's okay for us to keep waiting. If you pray, you can pray that both of these go well and that we will not face pressure for an induction. Jared and I want to have a natural and non-medicated birth, as long as Kathryn and I can remain safe and healthy.
Here's a 41 week picture from today. Kathryn has dropped, she is in a good position, and she continues to move a bit every day. Jared checks for her heartbeat and movement on a daily basis. I have been having prodromal ("fake") labor for about two and a half days--the contractions hurt, but are not overwhelming--more annoying. They are not properly time-able--some will be 5 minutes apart, others will be 30 minutes apart, or even hours later.
The "When to Expect" website that I mentioned a few posts ago now says I have a 65% chance of delivering this week. I really thought it would be higher than that! They say their best guess on Kathryn's weight would be 7lbs and 13oz. I feel like she is probably a little heavier than that.
The last time I was at the birth center (when I was 39 weeks and 4 days), I was scheduled for a biophysical profile that's to take place tomorrow morning. Basically, it's an ultrasound and a non-stress test, just to make sure that it's okay for us to keep waiting. If you pray, you can pray that both of these go well and that we will not face pressure for an induction. Jared and I want to have a natural and non-medicated birth, as long as Kathryn and I can remain safe and healthy.
Thursday, June 27, 2013
40 weeks and Chugging Along!
Kathryn, all the websites or books that I've used to update your growth, top out at 40 weeks. Frustrating, seeing as the average first time pregnancy, when left to develop naturally, will last an average of 41 weeks and 1 day. Anyway, today is your due date and you are comfortable where you are. I still feel you moving around (mostly trying to stretch out your feet) and the midwife at our appointment Monday said you were in prime position for delivery--finally, straight up and down. Your heartbeat was good at 140, and you are measuring just fine. We love you very much.
My blood pressure is good and I've gained 30 pounds now--more than what I hoped, but only by 5 pounds. I will not have another regular appointment with the Birth Center. If I remain pregnant, the next time I'll go will be next Friday, for an ultrasound at UNC and then a non-stress test at the Birth Center, to make sure that it is okay to keep waiting.
Since I don't have much news to share, here's an awesome (and foul-mouthed, just a warning) blogger and her great tips for being a new dad. I've also included her suggested comebacks for folks who ask, "Have you had that baby yet?/When are you having the baby?"
http://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2010/6/7/new-dad-survival-guide-8-essential-tips.html
Comebacks for the question, "Have you had that baby yet?"
1) I'm trying to hold it in so I can finish this novel I'm reading.
2) Oh, I had it, I just left it in the car today.
3) Jerkthatstatestheobvioussayswhat?
4) Don't worry, you'll know when your husband starts paying child support.
5) I had it yesterday but I'm trying to shoplift this basketball so could you leave me alone?
6) Sure I did, I just love maternity clothes so much that I duct-taped a bowling ball onto my belly and carry on like usual.
And lastly, the top 5 things I've learned from pregnancy and the top 5 things I've appreciated/enjoyed about pregnancy. Just for some levity and because I'm probably going to be too tired to remember much about it once Kathryn does arrive.
Top Five Things I've Learned:
(1) Give your husband just a tad more grace than you usually do. Your hormones are making you into even more of a stereotypical crazy woman than normal. He honestly does NOT get it, even though he's trying. Try to be patient.
(2) Accept that there are still insanely inappropriate people out there who will say all kinds of things that should never be said to pregnant women. But don't feel you have to let them get away with it.
(3) Everyone has advice. Be open, listen to it, nod your head. But don't feel like you have to do what they say, no matter who it is. This is YOUR pregnancy and YOUR baby. YOU know what's right for you and yours.
(4) Start early in your preparation for baby--including everything from building a registry, to figuring out what you want your nursery to look like, to exercising and eating right, etc. You will not have the energy or patience or time to do all of this in the last trimester.
(5) Babies cost a lot even before they arrive. While Jared and I have held to our original ban on frilly-butt clothes and have kept only a limited amount of pink "stuff", we have accepted any and all offerings from people. If we decide we can't use part of it, we use it to bless someone else who's expecting.
Top Five Things I've Appreciated/Enjoyed:
(1) For once in my life, it's okay to have a belly!
(2) The majority of this pregnancy has been easy--moderate morning sickness (but only at home, I never got sick at work or elsewhere), no complications, manageable aches and pains.
(3) Several people in my life have given me the back-handed compliment that I have "childbearing hips/hips meant for making babies." I actually do--my thickly built frame has done me many favors during pregnancy.
(4) I have gotten to know Jared in surprising new ways in the last ten months, and love him more and more. He is such a great daddy already.
(5) We have been so blessed by friends and family who have given us bags of gently used items, thrown us baby showers, gifted us at baby showers, and shared in our happiness. Thank you.
My blood pressure is good and I've gained 30 pounds now--more than what I hoped, but only by 5 pounds. I will not have another regular appointment with the Birth Center. If I remain pregnant, the next time I'll go will be next Friday, for an ultrasound at UNC and then a non-stress test at the Birth Center, to make sure that it is okay to keep waiting.
Since I don't have much news to share, here's an awesome (and foul-mouthed, just a warning) blogger and her great tips for being a new dad. I've also included her suggested comebacks for folks who ask, "Have you had that baby yet?/When are you having the baby?"
http://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2010/6/7/new-dad-survival-guide-8-essential-tips.html
Comebacks for the question, "Have you had that baby yet?"
1) I'm trying to hold it in so I can finish this novel I'm reading.
2) Oh, I had it, I just left it in the car today.
3) Jerkthatstatestheobvioussayswhat?
4) Don't worry, you'll know when your husband starts paying child support.
5) I had it yesterday but I'm trying to shoplift this basketball so could you leave me alone?
6) Sure I did, I just love maternity clothes so much that I duct-taped a bowling ball onto my belly and carry on like usual.
And lastly, the top 5 things I've learned from pregnancy and the top 5 things I've appreciated/enjoyed about pregnancy. Just for some levity and because I'm probably going to be too tired to remember much about it once Kathryn does arrive.
Top Five Things I've Learned:
(1) Give your husband just a tad more grace than you usually do. Your hormones are making you into even more of a stereotypical crazy woman than normal. He honestly does NOT get it, even though he's trying. Try to be patient.
(2) Accept that there are still insanely inappropriate people out there who will say all kinds of things that should never be said to pregnant women. But don't feel you have to let them get away with it.
(3) Everyone has advice. Be open, listen to it, nod your head. But don't feel like you have to do what they say, no matter who it is. This is YOUR pregnancy and YOUR baby. YOU know what's right for you and yours.
(4) Start early in your preparation for baby--including everything from building a registry, to figuring out what you want your nursery to look like, to exercising and eating right, etc. You will not have the energy or patience or time to do all of this in the last trimester.
(5) Babies cost a lot even before they arrive. While Jared and I have held to our original ban on frilly-butt clothes and have kept only a limited amount of pink "stuff", we have accepted any and all offerings from people. If we decide we can't use part of it, we use it to bless someone else who's expecting.
Top Five Things I've Appreciated/Enjoyed:
(1) For once in my life, it's okay to have a belly!
(2) The majority of this pregnancy has been easy--moderate morning sickness (but only at home, I never got sick at work or elsewhere), no complications, manageable aches and pains.
(3) Several people in my life have given me the back-handed compliment that I have "childbearing hips/hips meant for making babies." I actually do--my thickly built frame has done me many favors during pregnancy.
(4) I have gotten to know Jared in surprising new ways in the last ten months, and love him more and more. He is such a great daddy already.
(5) We have been so blessed by friends and family who have given us bags of gently used items, thrown us baby showers, gifted us at baby showers, and shared in our happiness. Thank you.
Thursday, June 20, 2013
39 full weeks and starting week 40
Kathryn, you will definitely be here sometime in the next three weeks! This week, more lanugo (downy hair) is falling out, and you may still be shedding vernix (white, greasy substance). You are most likely done with putting on pounds and inches. The average newborn weighs 7.5 to 8.3 pounds and is 20-21 inches long. Your lungs, brain, bones and reflexes are all developed--around this point, it is up to your little body and my body to agree on when you come out!
I still feel movement every day, even if it's just a little bit. Mostly, Kathryn is pushing her feet up the top of my belly, or she has hiccups. At our weekly visit on Monday, I got another good report on my blood pressure, my weight (I LOST half a pound), my belly measurement and Kathryn's heartbeat. I still enjoy pregnancy and don't feel the need to complain about it. After miscarrying Angel, I feel blessed to be able to carry this child. And, I know women who would give the world to have the most miserable pregnancy, if it meant being able to grow and then raise a child of their own.
There is a fun website called "When To Expect" that uses birth data and statistics to make guesses about your birth. Their calculations are based on the 2009 and 2010 public birth certificate data from the CDC's Division of Vital Statistics. There were something like 8 million US babies born in those years, and the website extracts the average data for matching pregnancies, based on your answers to a few questions. Keeping in mind that way too many of those pregnancies were probably scheduled inductions or c-sections, the website says I have a 48% chance of delivering this week (6/20-6/26), and a 32% chance of delivering the week after (6/27-7/3). It also guesses Kathryn's weight at 7 pounds, 11 ounces.
Anything left on our "to-do" list could be done before or after the birth, so we're pretty much good to go now. We're good to wait, too. :)
I still feel movement every day, even if it's just a little bit. Mostly, Kathryn is pushing her feet up the top of my belly, or she has hiccups. At our weekly visit on Monday, I got another good report on my blood pressure, my weight (I LOST half a pound), my belly measurement and Kathryn's heartbeat. I still enjoy pregnancy and don't feel the need to complain about it. After miscarrying Angel, I feel blessed to be able to carry this child. And, I know women who would give the world to have the most miserable pregnancy, if it meant being able to grow and then raise a child of their own.
There is a fun website called "When To Expect" that uses birth data and statistics to make guesses about your birth. Their calculations are based on the 2009 and 2010 public birth certificate data from the CDC's Division of Vital Statistics. There were something like 8 million US babies born in those years, and the website extracts the average data for matching pregnancies, based on your answers to a few questions. Keeping in mind that way too many of those pregnancies were probably scheduled inductions or c-sections, the website says I have a 48% chance of delivering this week (6/20-6/26), and a 32% chance of delivering the week after (6/27-7/3). It also guesses Kathryn's weight at 7 pounds, 11 ounces.
Anything left on our "to-do" list could be done before or after the birth, so we're pretty much good to go now. We're good to wait, too. :)
Thursday, June 13, 2013
Week 39 is Starting
Hello, Kathryn! You keep building up a layer of fat this week to help regulate your temperature once you're out, but there's no real telling anymore how much you weigh or how long you are. Most books would say you're about the average this week, at 19-21 inches long and seven or eight pounds. Boys tend to be a little heavier than girls at birth. Your head has dropped a little bit into my pelvis--not enough to really hurt or affect my walk, but it's a sign that you're getting yourself ready. You still move every day, but the peak of your movement was several weeks ago, when you had more room. Your brain continues to grow and your pink skin is turning more white. We love you very much.
Several people now have asked me if the midwives have changed my due date. I figure I will take advantage of my little soapbox here to inform folks that one's due date is usually only changed within the first trimester (three months). In fact, my midwives originally thought my due date was June 18th, based on when I *should* have ovulated, which was based on my last menstrual cycle. However, once I had my first ultrasound, the technician was able to measure Kathryn and, with a higher degree of certainty, say that Kathryn was not big enough to be due on June 18th, and that, more likely, she was a week behind and would come around June 27th. So, no, my due date will not be changing any. (And if you've read some of my other posts, you know the due date is fairly meaningless, anyway!) Speaking of, here's a link to a great article that one of my friends shared with me today. http://voices.yahoo.com/the-lie-edd-why-due-date-isnt-you-1958162.html?cat=25
I'm feeling uncomfortable, but not miserable. I ask Jared to do a lot of things that require bending down or lifting, and he's great about helping. I take some Tylenol each night to relieve my pelvic pain and help me sleep. I go to the Birth Center on Mondays for check-ups and to the chiropractor once or twice a week to help with keeping my pelvis aligned and my ligaments nice and loose. I do keep busy, and still have a couple of things I'd like to get done before Kathryn arrives. This week I have made chili and sausage balls to keep for meals, received the last few things from our registry that we wanted to have before Kathryn comes, washed baby clothes and put away items in the nursery, bought nursing bras, had the car seat bases inspected, had my hair cut and nails done, and stocked up on paper and toiletry products so we don't have to worry about running out in the next few weeks. I still feel like this pregnancy has flown by and feel very grateful that I've had no complications, drama or terribly unpleasant symptoms. God is good to us and I try to be mindful to give thanks each day.
Several people now have asked me if the midwives have changed my due date. I figure I will take advantage of my little soapbox here to inform folks that one's due date is usually only changed within the first trimester (three months). In fact, my midwives originally thought my due date was June 18th, based on when I *should* have ovulated, which was based on my last menstrual cycle. However, once I had my first ultrasound, the technician was able to measure Kathryn and, with a higher degree of certainty, say that Kathryn was not big enough to be due on June 18th, and that, more likely, she was a week behind and would come around June 27th. So, no, my due date will not be changing any. (And if you've read some of my other posts, you know the due date is fairly meaningless, anyway!) Speaking of, here's a link to a great article that one of my friends shared with me today. http://voices.yahoo.com/the-lie-edd-why-due-date-isnt-you-1958162.html?cat=25
I'm feeling uncomfortable, but not miserable. I ask Jared to do a lot of things that require bending down or lifting, and he's great about helping. I take some Tylenol each night to relieve my pelvic pain and help me sleep. I go to the Birth Center on Mondays for check-ups and to the chiropractor once or twice a week to help with keeping my pelvis aligned and my ligaments nice and loose. I do keep busy, and still have a couple of things I'd like to get done before Kathryn arrives. This week I have made chili and sausage balls to keep for meals, received the last few things from our registry that we wanted to have before Kathryn comes, washed baby clothes and put away items in the nursery, bought nursing bras, had the car seat bases inspected, had my hair cut and nails done, and stocked up on paper and toiletry products so we don't have to worry about running out in the next few weeks. I still feel like this pregnancy has flown by and feel very grateful that I've had no complications, drama or terribly unpleasant symptoms. God is good to us and I try to be mindful to give thanks each day.
Thursday, June 6, 2013
Week 38 starts today
Kathryn, we start week 38 today! It really has gone fast. You'll grow to about 6.8 or 7 pounds this week. The average newborn weighs 7.5 pounds (that number is skewed because of inductions and C-sections that happen before the baby is ready or even "due"), and is about 20 inches long. You've got a firm grasp and organs that are now mature enough for outside living. Most of the hair (lanugo) and greasy covering (vernix) is disappearing. You're plumping up your fat cells and taking in more antibodies to grow your immune system. You're squirming and pushing, but not kicking anymore. If your eyes are brown when you're born, they'll most likely stay brown. If they are grey or blue, they may stay blue, or they may turn hazel or green.
We have anywhere from a day to five weeks left. Jared and I aren't anxious--we know Kathryn will come when she's ready, and we don't want to hurry her. She is still "floating"--her head hasn't actually rested into my pelvis. So, that right there tells me it'll probably at least be 3 more weeks. I still have acid reflux and some leg cramping, and swelling in my legs and feet. Jared says my stretch marks remind him of a red watermelon--so charming. :) It is difficult to sleep, and painful both to lie still and to turn over. Sometimes I take Tylenol before bed, to try and help it.
Jared and I took this morning to have our "new parent" pictures taken at the Preston Woodall House in Benson, where we were married almost five years ago. It was fun, and we're glad the rain held off! I'll have weekly appointments at the Birth Center on Mondays, until Kathryn decides to arrive.
We have anywhere from a day to five weeks left. Jared and I aren't anxious--we know Kathryn will come when she's ready, and we don't want to hurry her. She is still "floating"--her head hasn't actually rested into my pelvis. So, that right there tells me it'll probably at least be 3 more weeks. I still have acid reflux and some leg cramping, and swelling in my legs and feet. Jared says my stretch marks remind him of a red watermelon--so charming. :) It is difficult to sleep, and painful both to lie still and to turn over. Sometimes I take Tylenol before bed, to try and help it.
Jared and I took this morning to have our "new parent" pictures taken at the Preston Woodall House in Benson, where we were married almost five years ago. It was fun, and we're glad the rain held off! I'll have weekly appointments at the Birth Center on Mondays, until Kathryn decides to arrive.
Thursday, May 30, 2013
36 full weeks...full term!
Kathryn, this week you are "full term", but you still have growing to do. You are 6.3 to 6.5 pounds this week, and have most likely finished your growing lengthwise. Your lungs are mature enough, or almost enough, to function on their own outside of me. You continue to practice blinking, sucking, breathing and turning from side to side. Your head is down, and I can feel your hiccups in my left hip--that's still where your back is. So, I get a lot of kicks/pushing against my right side. We love you very much.
I'm having a lot of Braxton Hicks, which are annoying but not painful. And getting comfortable is tricky. Good sleep is hard to come by, too. But, I don't have bad swelling, trouble breathing, high blood pressure, or any other clinical issues that would make me high-risk. And I've gained 27 pounds. A healthy weight gain for a whole pregnancy is 25-35 pounds, so I'm good with that. I feel blessed that this pregnancy has been such a "non-event", after losing Angel. I'm a mother to two, now--one in my womb, one in my heart.
Jared and I aren't accepting pelvic checks for effacement or dilation--all it tells us is that we're making progress, which we know is happening anyway. Some women stay dilated at 3 centimeters for three weeks. Others are completely closed one day and fully dilated the next. We'd rather not have the possibility of bacteria/infection, or for someone to strip my membranes without my consent or knowledge. We know Kathryn will come when she's ready, and she'll let us know when that is!
I'm having a lot of Braxton Hicks, which are annoying but not painful. And getting comfortable is tricky. Good sleep is hard to come by, too. But, I don't have bad swelling, trouble breathing, high blood pressure, or any other clinical issues that would make me high-risk. And I've gained 27 pounds. A healthy weight gain for a whole pregnancy is 25-35 pounds, so I'm good with that. I feel blessed that this pregnancy has been such a "non-event", after losing Angel. I'm a mother to two, now--one in my womb, one in my heart.
Jared and I aren't accepting pelvic checks for effacement or dilation--all it tells us is that we're making progress, which we know is happening anyway. Some women stay dilated at 3 centimeters for three weeks. Others are completely closed one day and fully dilated the next. We'd rather not have the possibility of bacteria/infection, or for someone to strip my membranes without my consent or knowledge. We know Kathryn will come when she's ready, and she'll let us know when that is!
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Appointment and Fun Facts
Good news at our appointment today! Kathryn's head is in the right place now. Her back is now laying in my left hip, instead of her head. Maybe she's just sliding down there a little at a time? There was finally someone available to do the ultrasound and confirm it, so I feel much more at ease now.
My iron level was good, Kathryn's heart rate was good, and I should hear back about some blood work and the GBS test by the end of the week. I have gained 27 lbs here at week 36--average weight gain is 25-30 pounds right now, so I have finally caught up with everyone. It was nice while it lasted!
Some fun facts:
If Kathryn's born in June, her birthstone will be the pearl and birth flowers are the rose and honeysuckle.
If she's born in July, her birthstone will be the ruby and birth flowers are the larkspur and water lily.
Regardless of month, she will most likely be a Cancer in the zodiac, and her Chinese zodiac animal is the Black Water Snake.
She'll be old enough to drive a car in 2029, finish high school in 2031, and graduate college in 2035.
On her due date, in history:
Helen Keller was born in 1880
Bell Laboratories announced the successful transmission of television signals in 1929
Moscow opened the world's first atomic power station in 1954
The first seat belt legislation was passed in Illinois in 1955
My iron level was good, Kathryn's heart rate was good, and I should hear back about some blood work and the GBS test by the end of the week. I have gained 27 lbs here at week 36--average weight gain is 25-30 pounds right now, so I have finally caught up with everyone. It was nice while it lasted!
Some fun facts:
If Kathryn's born in June, her birthstone will be the pearl and birth flowers are the rose and honeysuckle.
If she's born in July, her birthstone will be the ruby and birth flowers are the larkspur and water lily.
Regardless of month, she will most likely be a Cancer in the zodiac, and her Chinese zodiac animal is the Black Water Snake.
She'll be old enough to drive a car in 2029, finish high school in 2031, and graduate college in 2035.
On her due date, in history:
Helen Keller was born in 1880
Bell Laboratories announced the successful transmission of television signals in 1929
Moscow opened the world's first atomic power station in 1954
The first seat belt legislation was passed in Illinois in 1955
Thursday, May 23, 2013
Starting Week Thirty-Six
We are 35 full weeks, one more week until Kathryn is considered full-term. We are starting month nine...Jared and I are very ready, and yet don't feel ready. There are still some items to buy, food to prepare, and Jared has some reading to do. Kathryn, this week you may be about 6 pounds and 20-20.5 inches long. Most of your systems are well-equipped for life now. Your brain is developing a lot this week and you practice your blinking. You're shedding your downy coat of hair and the waxy vernix that has covered you. We love you very much.
This week, you may drop lower into my pelvis, preparing for birth. I can only hope that you're head down, now. I've been to the chiropractor twice and have been doing exercises to encourage you to get in the right position, but won't know if you've complied until our ultrasound next Tuesday.
I have a constant achiness and pressure in my pelvis, and it is very difficult to get truly comfortable. I am fatigued really easily, and that still kind of bothers me--I feel like I should be able to accomplish more each day. Kathryn squirms and turns, but there are very few kicks or jabs these days. Braxton Hicks contractions are pretty frequent, but easy to ignore. That's really about it--no drama or big complaints here! I'll try and update again on Tuesday regarding our next appointment.
This week, you may drop lower into my pelvis, preparing for birth. I can only hope that you're head down, now. I've been to the chiropractor twice and have been doing exercises to encourage you to get in the right position, but won't know if you've complied until our ultrasound next Tuesday.
I have a constant achiness and pressure in my pelvis, and it is very difficult to get truly comfortable. I am fatigued really easily, and that still kind of bothers me--I feel like I should be able to accomplish more each day. Kathryn squirms and turns, but there are very few kicks or jabs these days. Braxton Hicks contractions are pretty frequent, but easy to ignore. That's really about it--no drama or big complaints here! I'll try and update again on Tuesday regarding our next appointment.
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Starting week 35!
This is the last week of Month Eight....time has gone so slowly lately! Kathryn, at the end of this week you will probably be 19-20 inches long and 5.5 pounds--about the weight of a honeydew melon. You may have topped out on your height by now, but you'll continue to gain about a half a pound every week from now on. Your brain and lungs continue to develop at a quick pace. We love you very much.
We had an appointment today and I was so disappointed to find out that the baby is in an oblique breech position. This is when the baby's head is pointing toward mom's hip, instead of down toward the cervix:
I was advised to sit on our birthing ball (an exercise ball) as much as possible from here on out, to get her to turn. One of my biggest fears at this point is that Kathryn remains breech and I'm forced to get a C-section. My uterus is measuring fine and I've gained 22 pounds--the average women have gained 24-29 by now.
We did run up against some opposition to our birth plan today. In it, we share that we don't want to receive Pitocin to help deliver the placenta after the birth. The midwife I saw today is the one our Bradley Method birth instructor called out specifically as a strong advocate to this "active management of the third stage of labor". She read that part of our birth plan, and immediately wanted to argue with us about it, saying she hoped that we would abandon that idea and trust her and her experience of being at 3,000 births thus far. There was a little fear-mongering, too--I was surprised but very glad that our birth instructor had already taught us about this and warned us about this exact situation!
As for me: I tire easily, and I have a lot of achiness and painful pressure in my pelvis. Sometimes when I get up, it feels like my pelvic bones will break. I still have occasional acid reflux, and I don't sleep well. Honestly, not very much to complain about, considering all the symptoms considered normal!
Jared's co-workers threw us a shower this past week--I'm glad that Jared is thought of so highly that they wanted to do that for us! It was very special. We have another shower--our fourth and last--this coming Sunday with our church's connect group and other church friends. Looking forward to spending time with everyone together!
We had an appointment today and I was so disappointed to find out that the baby is in an oblique breech position. This is when the baby's head is pointing toward mom's hip, instead of down toward the cervix:
I was advised to sit on our birthing ball (an exercise ball) as much as possible from here on out, to get her to turn. One of my biggest fears at this point is that Kathryn remains breech and I'm forced to get a C-section. My uterus is measuring fine and I've gained 22 pounds--the average women have gained 24-29 by now.
We did run up against some opposition to our birth plan today. In it, we share that we don't want to receive Pitocin to help deliver the placenta after the birth. The midwife I saw today is the one our Bradley Method birth instructor called out specifically as a strong advocate to this "active management of the third stage of labor". She read that part of our birth plan, and immediately wanted to argue with us about it, saying she hoped that we would abandon that idea and trust her and her experience of being at 3,000 births thus far. There was a little fear-mongering, too--I was surprised but very glad that our birth instructor had already taught us about this and warned us about this exact situation!
As for me: I tire easily, and I have a lot of achiness and painful pressure in my pelvis. Sometimes when I get up, it feels like my pelvic bones will break. I still have occasional acid reflux, and I don't sleep well. Honestly, not very much to complain about, considering all the symptoms considered normal!
Jared's co-workers threw us a shower this past week--I'm glad that Jared is thought of so highly that they wanted to do that for us! It was very special. We have another shower--our fourth and last--this coming Sunday with our church's connect group and other church friends. Looking forward to spending time with everyone together!
Thursday, May 9, 2013
Week 34 starts today!
Kathryn, we start week 34 today! It'll most likely be another 6-8 weeks before you arrive, which is fine. At the end of this week, you'll be 4.75 to 5 pounds (an average cantaloupe), and 18-20 inches long. All your organs are almost mature, except your lungs, and your skin (now pink instead of red) keeps smoothing out. You are hopefully settling head down, which we'll check on next week at our appointment. We love you very much.
I still feel very blessed with how this pregnancy is going. Maybe it's easier because I have a longer torso, maybe it's because I've always been a "solidly built" woman, or maybe I just have a different perspective since losing my first child to miscarriage. But for the most part, I feel fine. "Typical" symptoms" at this point should include nasal stuffiness, constipation, hemorrhoids, backaches, hair growth in the wrong places (chin, neck, back), shortness of breath and breast leaks. I'm not experiencing any of those!
What I do have is trouble sleeping (I wake up to turn over occasionally), mild swelling, stretch marks, and some leg cramping. Not a big deal, really.
Our couples' shower last weekend was so nice. Many friends came, the food was delicious, the cake was beautiful, the decorations were lovely. The weather was....ok. At least it wasn't colder or raining! We have about 30% of our registry fulfilled at this time, and we still have two showers! I found out yesterday that Jared's company plans on throwing us a little shower next week--we feel so loved! This will make four showers....amazing.
Next birth center appointment is next Thursday! We'll have an ultrasound to check on Kathryn's position, size, and to double-check that she is a girl.
I still feel very blessed with how this pregnancy is going. Maybe it's easier because I have a longer torso, maybe it's because I've always been a "solidly built" woman, or maybe I just have a different perspective since losing my first child to miscarriage. But for the most part, I feel fine. "Typical" symptoms" at this point should include nasal stuffiness, constipation, hemorrhoids, backaches, hair growth in the wrong places (chin, neck, back), shortness of breath and breast leaks. I'm not experiencing any of those!
What I do have is trouble sleeping (I wake up to turn over occasionally), mild swelling, stretch marks, and some leg cramping. Not a big deal, really.
Our couples' shower last weekend was so nice. Many friends came, the food was delicious, the cake was beautiful, the decorations were lovely. The weather was....ok. At least it wasn't colder or raining! We have about 30% of our registry fulfilled at this time, and we still have two showers! I found out yesterday that Jared's company plans on throwing us a little shower next week--we feel so loved! This will make four showers....amazing.
Next birth center appointment is next Thursday! We'll have an ultrasound to check on Kathryn's position, size, and to double-check that she is a girl.
Thursday, May 2, 2013
32 Full Weeks, Starting Week 33
Kathryn, this is the start of a few "growing" weeks for you. This week you will grow to weigh a little more than 4 pounds (a good sized pineapple) and might top out at 19 inches for length. You are almost finished growing length-wise--then you will really start to fill out width-wise! The amniotic fluid has maxed out, meaning there is more of you than there is of fluid. On one hand, that'll mean your kicks are more sharp (less cushioning), but you may do less of them because there is less room for you. Also this week, I am passing along a lot of antibodies as you build up your own immune system. At this point, you can only protect yourself from the mildest bacteria and germs. We love you very much.
I have gained 21 pounds as of a week ago (it's probably 22 by now). That's good--the average is 22-28 by now. More good news: I am still sashaying as opposed to waddling. I'm not having to deal with headaches, hemorrhoids, protruding navel, shortness of breath, or "leakiness" from my breasts. My blood pressure still looks great and I don't have gestational diabetes or dangerous swelling.
However....my acid reflux continues to try and kill me. My ears can sometimes feel blocked and I have increasing trouble with sleeping. I have a smattering of stretch marks, spider veins and varicose veins, and a lot of achiness and pelvic pressure. I'm wearing my new support band and applying the vitamins (see last week's post) most of the time, and it does seem to help a little.
I never imagined that I could stay so busy without having a job to go to! It's crazy how much there is to be done in the house, in the yard, or with running errands or scheduling appointments for various things. I manage to stay busy all day, every day. Kathryn's second wall decal FINALLY arrived yesterday (after five weeks of waiting and opening a case on Etsy against the shop owner), so maybe we can get back to decorating and arranging the room.
Our next shower is Saturday, hosted by our moms, and then we'll have one last shower two weeks after that, hosted by our church connect group. Next birth center appointment is in two weeks exactly!
I have gained 21 pounds as of a week ago (it's probably 22 by now). That's good--the average is 22-28 by now. More good news: I am still sashaying as opposed to waddling. I'm not having to deal with headaches, hemorrhoids, protruding navel, shortness of breath, or "leakiness" from my breasts. My blood pressure still looks great and I don't have gestational diabetes or dangerous swelling.
However....my acid reflux continues to try and kill me. My ears can sometimes feel blocked and I have increasing trouble with sleeping. I have a smattering of stretch marks, spider veins and varicose veins, and a lot of achiness and pelvic pressure. I'm wearing my new support band and applying the vitamins (see last week's post) most of the time, and it does seem to help a little.
I never imagined that I could stay so busy without having a job to go to! It's crazy how much there is to be done in the house, in the yard, or with running errands or scheduling appointments for various things. I manage to stay busy all day, every day. Kathryn's second wall decal FINALLY arrived yesterday (after five weeks of waiting and opening a case on Etsy against the shop owner), so maybe we can get back to decorating and arranging the room.
Our next shower is Saturday, hosted by our moms, and then we'll have one last shower two weeks after that, hosted by our church connect group. Next birth center appointment is in two weeks exactly!
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